Posts Tagged ‘Stress’

Jun
02

SCARF explains Workplace interactions

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Helping you understand what might be occurring for you in your workplace interactions. If you haven’t already done so, I thoroughly recommend you complete the online SCARF assessment. This will help you identify your drivers of behaviour in terms of threat and reward.

Creating such insights into what motivates your behaviour allows you to take control in situations where you find your buttons being pressed. By understanding what is occurring for you in the moment, you have the opportunity to influence the outcome to a better one. One that serves you and others better.

Oh yeah, and Vitamin B also helps.

Jul
23

Call to action

Everyday we receive a ‘call to action’ from somebody out there on the world wide web, on the street, in the media and of course on social media platforms. ‘Mum says if I get 100,000 ‘Likes’ I’ll get a new puppy’.

I was asked last night after a reader received my blog post, “Where’s your call to action?”

Seriously folks, can’t we just chat? Can’t we just start a conversation that has people start to think, talk and share their views without broadcasting ‘Hey you out there I’d like you to respond to this blog after reading it.’ I mean, the invitation is already there for you to respond as I put my thoughts out there in the most public place on the planet.

Does everything really have to have a marketing edge? If it does then I fear we have reduced ourselves and our species to nothing more than a bunch of self absorbed sales people that believe we have the answer for everything and everyone.

I have no answers, only questions and if in the sharing of our thoughts we solve a few problems or come closer to solving some then it was a great conversation to have.

Something worth reading

Aug
08

Putting the brakes on, in time.

Thoughts and ideasIn my last blog I talked about how the pre-frontal cortex (PFC), the thinking, rational, problem-solving part of the brain, is also responsible for “putting the brakes on” inappropriate behaviour. And so, you have your PFC to thank for stopping you from telling your boss what you really think of her. However, under duress, when the emotional parts of your brain are strongly engaged, your PFC doesn’t always step in in time to stop you from blurting out that insult.

So what can be done to reign in those emotional responses that you might regret the next day (er…minute)? Here’s one method:

“Use your words”; something you might tell a 3-year-old struggling with emotional control may also have a surprising effect on dampening emotional responses in adults. Researchers have found that when confronted with an emotional individual, simply labelling the emotional state of that person lessens the individual’s own emotional reaction to that individual. In fact, the part of the PFC thought by some researchers to be crucial in self-regulation shows increased activation during this task compared to when the emotional individual is just observed, and, crucially, the emotional centre of the brain, the amygdala, shows reduced activity during this task.

Now, I’m not saying you should verbally label your aggressor’s emotional state. Saying, “you’re angry” to someone who’s angry probably isn’t going to dispel any of their anger. But labelling your own emotions could just save the day. It’s also no good to beat yourself up over the fact that you’re feeling fearful or angry yourself (“damn it, I’m angry again”). The point of the task is to label how you’re feeling in a detached, non-judgemental way (“oh, I’m feeling angry”).

It’s one thing to be able to label your emotions after the event, and an entirely different thing to be able, in the heat of the moment, to automatically label how you’re feeling. My advice is to practise, practise, practise. The best chance you have of pulling this off is by becoming good at acknowledging (non-judgementally) your emotions and thoughts on a daily basis. Then forgive yourself if it doesn’t come easy in the heat of the moment. It’s only human to feel!

If you encounter persistent behavioural problems in your work-place, contact us at Beyond IQ.